It’s common for one partner to lose a lot financially when they get a divorce from their spouse.
You may have to sell your shared home at a loss, or you may have been relying on their job-related retirement plan. The financial aspect of divorce is what makes it so stressful, and that’s why family court lawyers in Ontario recommend prenups so often.
Many people do not want to ask for a prenup because they are worried about offending their partner and starting a fight. Many people research how to bring up the topic of prenups without making their partner think that they are a gold digger.
If you find yourself in this situation, you likely want advice from a divorce attorney in Ontario.
Our attorneys recommend that you bring it up as early as possible, before you get engaged. However, this is often a missed opportunity since many people do not start considering this option until they are planning the wedding.
Whenever you do bring it up, you should anticipate some pushback and/or heavy conversation. Try to be as empathetic as possible, but also emphasize why you want one. Is it a promise you made to your family? Were you a witness to a messy divorce? You should also tell your partner about how much simplicity this will bring in the event you two decide to split.
Bringing up divorce before you get married may be taboo or even feel like a jinx, but the truth is that divorce is almost as common as a marriage lasting forever. Many millennials are well aware of this fact, as they are often children of divorce themselves.
Most of all, you should let your partner know that this is a two-person agreement and that they are going to have a hand in its creation. You can emphasize that all decisions made in the prenup are going to be approved or altered by them beforehand.
Both the higher-earning and lower-earning spouses benefit from prenups, as they clearly spell out the divorce settlements and alimony amounts should this event actually happen. Many couples, and their divorce attorneys, end up being grateful that they had the foresight to arrange for the division of their finances. Contact our attorneys if you need a mediator for the creation of a prenup.
